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  I am taking a pause from my normal marriage blogs and things of metal health to talk to everyone about something the Lord showed me in a vision yesterday. You see, my husband and I went from truly lukewarm Christianity, where we were listening to tons of secular music, drinking and living for ourselves to now living a life more Holy and free from all curses, all generational baggage, and more importantly free of everything that was holding us back to fully commit to the Lord. It all started when we decided to pursue the Lord with everything we had, we pursed even to our last dollar in the bank. And when we did that, we saw our lives change, there was a shift that we couldn’t explain. We witnessed super natural healings, chains breaking, and so much more.  The point to this post is this, Time is Short! The enemy has made it a lie that we all believe and think is true that we do have time. However, we don’t have that time. Our time here is limited and we each have a purpose an...

 In a world filled with diverse challenges and opportunities, Christian women are called to navigate with confidence grounded in their faith. This blog explores what it means to be a confident Christian woman in today’s dynamic landscape, addressing empowerment, purpose, and the transformative influence of unwavering faith. 1. Confidence Rooted in Faith: True confidence for Christian women begins with a deep-rooted faith in God’s love and purpose. Trusting in His plan provides a solid foundation, empowering women to navigate life’s uncertainties with grace and assurance. 2. Embracing Individuality: Confidence involves embracing one’s unique identity. Christian women can boldly celebrate their individuality, recognizing that they are fearfully and wonderfully made, each with a purpose within the grand tapestry of God’s design. 3. Empowerment through Scripture: The Bible serves as a timeless source of empowerment. Christian women find confidence in the scriptures that aff...

   Anxiety disorder is on the rise I the millennial generation, but it has also hit hard with my generation. We all probably know one or more people who suffer from anxiety, and we probably have suffered from it as well. Anxiety is a universal experience, in which our world grows increasingly worrisome. This has prompted many modern thinkers to call the last half of the twentieth century the “age of anxiety”. Psychology and modern medicine provide evidence that worry and anxiety have disastrous effects on the human body ranging from ulcers to chronic feelings of unhappiness. As Christian’s how do we handle anxiety? In Matthew 6:25-32 the profound words of Jesus’ view of anxiety, his reasonings, and prescription can be found. Furthermore, the Lord states clearly that worry is a complete waste of energy and should not be indulged in because God provides for our needs.  The position of the Lord regarding Anxiety is pretty straightforward. This is what his word states; * God ...

   In the world today, we have so many elderly people who have been forgotten, been put in homes, and have just been out of sight out of mind. As Christians though, we are called to do more than just let our elders parish. Let us take a look into what the Bible says about elderly people.   Elderly persons is referenced all throughout the Bible including aging. We first see this in Genesis, where long life is viewed as normal and desirable. The ages is to be respected, but it is not automatically equaled with goodness, wisdom, or even competence. The shortening of lifespan to 120 years is charged to the human evil, not to creation or human nature. ( Genesis 6:3)  The 10 commandments include respect for our parents and the Mosaic Law commands similar respect to all the elderly.  Everyone ages and should be recognized for the years of life lived. Even the old can be born again. They serve others to the very end, as we all should do. For in James 2:8 is states we sh...

 For Christians, the concept of being called to a particular purpose or mission holds profound significance. In this blog, we delve into the meaning of answering the call as a Christian, exploring the spiritual journey, discernment, and the transformative power of living out one’s vocation. 1. Understanding the Call: In Christianity, the call is often perceived as a divine invitation or guidance towards a specific path or purpose. This call can manifest in various aspects of life, such as career, ministry, or relationships. 2. Discernment Process: Discerning the call involves a process of prayer, reflection, and seeking guidance from God. It requires a deep connection with one’s faith and a willingness to listen to the still, small voice that guides believers on their unique journey. 3. Alignment with Faith and Values: A genuine call is expected to align with Christian values and principles. It is a beckoning to live a life that reflects the teachings of Christ and cont...

 Marriage is a beautiful union of two individuals, but it’s equally important to preserve your unique identity within the partnership. This blog explores practical ways to nurture and maintain your individual voice while fostering a strong and harmonious marital relationship. 1. Cultivate Self-Awareness: Understanding yourself is the first step to maintaining your individuality. Reflect on your values, interests, and goals. Knowing who you are allows you to bring authenticity to the marriage. 2. Open Communication: Establish a communication channel where you and your spouse feel comfortable expressing your thoughts and feelings. Share your aspirations, concerns, and dreams openly, ensuring that both voices are heard and valued. 3. Pursue Personal Hobbies and Interests: Maintain a connection with your passions and interests outside of the marriage. Whether it’s a hobby, career pursuit, or personal project, dedicating time to your individual pursuits enriches your life an...

 Marriage, a sacred union between two individuals, can sometimes face challenges when external opinions, particularly those of in-laws, become intrusive. Establishing and maintaining healthy boundaries is essential for preserving the sanctity of your marital relationship. In this blog post, we’ll explore effective strategies to keep in-law opinions at bay and nurture a strong and independent marital bond. 1. Open Communication with Your Spouse: Begin by fostering open communication with your spouse about the influence of in-law opinions. Establish a united front, ensuring that you both understand and respect each other’s boundaries when it comes to family matters. 2. Define and Communicate Boundaries: Clearly define your boundaries and communicate them to your in-laws in a respectful and assertive manner. Let them know what aspects of your marriage are private and not open for discussion. Setting these expectations early on helps prevent misunderstandings. 3. Handle Dis...

 Marriage, a beautiful journey intertwined with love and commitment, often encounters the inevitable companion of stress. Navigating the complexities of life together can be challenging, but it’s how couples manage stress that truly defines the strength of their union. In this blog post, we’ll explore effective strategies to help couples cope with and overcome stress in their marriage. 1. Open Dialogue: Foster open and honest communication about stressors. Create a safe space for both partners to express their feelings, concerns, and anxieties. A candid conversation can lead to mutual understanding and support. 2. Teamwork Approach: Approach stress as a team. Rather than viewing challenges as individual burdens, tackle them together. The “we against the problem” mindset strengthens the bond and reinforces the idea that you’re a united front. 3. Set Realistic Expectations: Assess and set realistic expectations for yourselves and your marriage. Understand that perfection ...

 In the chaotic symphony of parenting, maintaining a strong and open line of communication between partners becomes paramount. For couples navigating the challenges of raising children, learning how to communicate effectively is not just a skill but a vital lifeline that sustains the foundation of a healthy relationship. In this blog post, we’ll explore practical tips on fostering communication within couples who are also parents. 1. Prioritize Quality Time: Amidst the hustle and bustle of parenting, carving out quality time for each other is essential. Whether it’s a quiet dinner after the kids have gone to bed or a weekend getaway, dedicating time solely to your partner reinforces the importance of your relationship. 2. Active Listening: Practice the art of active listening. When your partner is sharing thoughts or concerns, give them your full attention. Put down the phone, make eye contact, and validate their feelings. This not only strengthens the emotional connection ...

 Substance abuse, a silent adversary, creeps into the sanctity of marriage, leaving behind a trail of devastation that often goes unnoticed. In this blog post, we will explore the concealed dangers of substance abuse within the confines of matrimony, shedding light on the profound impact it can have on couples and their relationships. 1. Erosion of Trust: Substance abuse erodes the foundation of trust that holds a marriage together. Constant deceit, lies, and broken promises become the unfortunate norm, creating an environment of uncertainty and betrayal. The erosion of trust can irreparably damage the core of the marital bond. 2. Communication Breakdown: As substance abuse takes hold, effective communication between spouses often breaks down. The undercurrent of addiction introduces barriers, making it challenging for couples to express their emotions, concerns, or needs. This breakdown can lead to misunderstandings, resentment, and emotional detachment. 3. Financial S...

In the digital age, where access to explicit content is just a click away, the influence of pornography on marriages has become a pressing concern. In this blog post, we’ll delve into the dangers of pornography and how it can negatively impact the dynamics within a marriage. 1. Distorted Expectations: Exposure to pornography can create unrealistic expectations about intimacy and physical appearance. This can lead to dissatisfaction within the marital relationship, as individuals may compare their partner to the unrealistic standards portrayed in adult content. 2. Communication Breakdown: Pornography often becomes a silent intruder in marriages, hindering open communication about intimate needs and desires. Couples may find it difficult to discuss their feelings, leading to emotional distance and potential misunderstandings. 3. Impact on Emotional Connection: Excessive consumption of pornography may divert emotional energy away from the marital relationship. Emotional bonds ...

Parenting is a transformative journey that brings immense joy and fulfillment, but it can also be a source of significant challenges for couples. In this blog post, we’ll explore common parenting issues within marriages and provide insights on how to navigate these challenges while maintaining a strong and healthy relationship. 1. Differing Parenting Styles: One of the primary sources of conflict is differing parenting styles. Partners may have distinct approaches to discipline, education, and routines. It’s crucial to find common ground, emphasizing open communication and compromise to create a unified parenting strategy that aligns with both partners’ values. 2. Unequal Distribution of Parenting Responsibilities: Many couples struggle with an uneven distribution of parenting duties, leading to feelings of resentment and exhaustion. Establishing clear expectations and sharing responsibilities equitably can alleviate stress. Regularly reassess and adjust roles based on changing...

  Money can be a touchy subject for many couples, but effective communication and collaboration are key to overcoming financial challenges. In this blog post, we’ll explore practical tips and strategies for married couples facing money problems, helping them build a strong financial foundation while strengthening their relationship. 1. Open Communication: Transparent communication is the cornerstone of any successful marriage, especially when it comes to finances. Schedule regular money talks to discuss budgeting, financial goals, and any concerns. Establishing an open dialogue fosters understanding and prevents misunderstandings. 2. Set Shared Financial Goals: Aligning your financial goals is crucial. Define short-term and long-term objectives that reflect both partners’ aspirations. Whether it’s saving for a home, planning for retirement, or paying off debt, having common goals creates a sense of purpose and unity in managing finances. 3. Create a Budget Together: Dev...